“Everyone I know has a big but!” -Pee Wee Herman
Any time I talk to anyone about what Jessica and I are doing (and it’s often), it seems that I almost always get the same reaction: “We would foster, but. . . ” or “We’ve thought about it, but . . . ” [Read more…]
One of the things I always tell future dads to be is that there is one thing NO ONE tells you, and it’s something I did not realize until after we had Eli.
I used to get somewhat upset when people would talk about the mother/child bond which pre-dates the actual birth of the child. I remember, during Jessica’s pregnancy, how amazing it felt when the baby kicked. How cool it was when it was moving around. We got our own little doppler to listen to the baby’s heartbeat. Granted, with Eli, there was the added concern because Jessica had had so many miscarriages. I spoke to the tummy daily and did what I could to bond with the baby before he was born. I did the same with Brenna. But it just wasn’t the same. And I felt that I was missing something or, more specifically, that there was something wrong with me. [Read more…]