1. The care of yourself! You fall into that you will not be good to anyone if you are not good to yourself.

    Try to get the boys on the bikes with you. It will be less of a workout but better than sitting. Then when thy hit 18, it’s a different story of acceptance. Try 15 to 20 minutes three times a week. That’s all you need.

    You also need emotional boundaries. Too much on your heart can leave you tired. I jus finished a book called th 8 habits of love by Ed Bacon. Take a look at it if you can. It gve some tools to say it like it is with love.

    Thinking and praying for you and your family,

    • MarcBenz

      Thanks Patte for the visit and comment!

      With winter approaching, biking is not exactly in the cards. Mentally, I’m actually doing probably better than ever. I told someone the other day that when you’re where you are supposed to be, stress just fades away. And while we have our moments, we know we’re where we’re supposed to be.

      I’ve always been careful to take mental breaks for myself. Jessica and I do unwind (or as we call it, we go “off duty”) at the end of our days, although I suspect that I’m better at that part than Jessica is. After all, she not only has the kids to deal with but me as well! 😉

      For me, workouts are some “me” time that I’ve always kept as such. Like any introvert, I prefer that time to myself to recharge my emotional and mental batteries. It’s a formula that works for *me* (although I would not presume to say it works for everyone).

      Having said all of the above, though, you’re right about emotional boundaries. The big discovery I made is that I’m a binge eater. I would have never thought that. But during those moments when the heart *is* feeling particularly strained, I go for the chips. Or pizza. Or cookies. Or whatever is in the cupboard.

      I’ll take a look at the book. One other thing I’ve found is that when I sit down to read a book, I fall asleep after about 2 sentences. For me, a book is the gift that keeps on giving because it takes me forever and a day to finish one. But if they have a Kindle edition, I can throw it on my phone and read it a paragraph at a time. That might work!

      Thanks again for visiting, suggesting and commenting!


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